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What I do every damn nightā¦.. analyze every thing My mind never stops
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At 1.13
I mean isn't it so weird and strange that Rm asked both of them that?? Why would he ask something like that if jikook were actually a couple?? Doesn't rm know that they were dating or maybe jikook actually not together that is why rm asked them that like in a teasing way which normally friends do when you saw ur other friends wear something matching. This moment always makes me confused.
I might be the wrong person to ask cause Iām of the opinion that if theyāre dating they probably didnāt actually make anything official or formally tell other members until much more recently than a lot of other jikookers think. I personally think they probably wavered in the not-quite-just-friends-but-not-quite-dating space for quite a while, years in fact, and I think itās where a lot of the awkwardness/palpable tension and nervousness in some of their early interactions stemmed from.
And Namjoonās question still remains ā why did they do that stuff? The matchy-matchy couple-y stuff? Cause they didnāt exactly say ānoā did they š
Not to mention the same thing happened when Jin blurted āare you two togetherā during the palm pushing game here:
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And him asking that does nothing to take away from the flirtatiousness of that entire interaction, so. If anything it just highlights how sus their behavior is.
I might have mentioned this before but I donāt go around looking for single moments to ādebunkā the theory that Jimin and Jung Kook have something romantic going on. Iām not that insecure, at least not anymore haha. To me itās obvious, from their behavior and treatment of each other when you look at them as a whole and not through some skeptical, conspiracy-theorist lens. Think what you want but any attempts to get me to go āomg youāre right it must all be a sham and I imagined everythingā are gonna fall flat every time. It is what it is, friend š«¤
Iām a small fish though so maybe try someone else ā you might get lucky and convert a much bigger blogger than me. Do you become a Level 5 Laser Lotus if you do that?
#just kidding#kind of#this ask seems culty but maybe not!#benefit of the doubt#everyone should watch Community itās probably the best show ever written
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... I've had a new thought
Maybe, just maybe, @staff thought the idea for a forced algorithm was a dumbshit idea just like the rest of us, but, orders from on high, watcha gonna do?
Well you could make a post about how you're gonna do it, generating such a shitstorm that Tumblr Management is forced to concede it's the worst fucking idea.
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Find Common Ground
One gets the sense that Seneca, like many smart and active people, was often frustrated by other people. It is inevitable that someone like himāsomeone creating art, actively participating in government, managing properties, etcāwould have regularly found his interest and his will thwarted. Perhaps a neighbor opposed some changes he was making to his land. Or an intriguing enemy at the palace sought to undermine him with the emperor. Maybe his brother jostled for an inheritance. Maybe he bumped into a rude person in the street.
These are timeless and common occurrences. And, quite naturally, they are prone to make us angryāespecially if we impute the least charitable motivations on the other party. My neighbor is trying to screw me over. So and so wants my job. My brother is up to his old tricks. This guy is a selfish jerk.
When we think this way, we get angry. Itās hard not to. Which is why Senecaāfrom experienceāsaid that we have to resist. Instead, we should try to go through life like a lawyerā¦or rather like a public defender. We must, he said, āplead the case of the absent defendant despite our own interests.ā That is, really take the time to think about what is motivating other people. Take the time to act as if we are trying to help them escape punishment from the judge and jury that is the emotional and vindictive part of our mind (Oh, he really just wants whatās best for everyone. My brother doesnāt know better. This guy didnāt mean to bump into meāheās just having a hard day). Donāt just fight to see the worst, fight to see their side.
When we do this, when we give people the benefit of the doubtāthe presumption of innocence instead of the presumption of guilt and ill-motivesāeverything relaxes. We can forgive. We can find common ground. We can focus on what is actually importantā¦our own behavior.
- The Daily Stoic
#the daily stoic#daily stoic#common ground#presumption of innocence#benefit of the doubt#principle of charity#public defender#seneca#angry#anger#presumption of guilt
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Overflowing
(for all the āgood peopleā who struggle with this, including me)
Weāre good people, right?
I mean, you and I donāt hurt people. Thatās not us.
And if we do something or say something that someone thinks is hurtful, they probably just misunderstood us.
Really, itās their problem. Theyāre assuming the worst. But theyāre wrong. Because thatās just not who we are.
Weāre good people. We know it. Thatās why we give ourselves the benefit of the doubt.
And thatās how you and I want to be treated. We want people to assume the best about us. We want to be given the benefit of the doubt.
So how do we do that? Weāve got two options. Thereās the easy one, just assuming that everybody knows that weāre good people.
And we can treat them however we want to, say whatever we want. Assume the worst about them. But theyāll keep giving us the benefit of the doubt, right?
Because weāre good people. Too bad that one doesnāt work.
Or thereās the other option. Itās the formula we see in todayās Gospel.
āGive and gifts will be given to you; a good measure, packed together, shaken down, and overflowing, will be poured into your lap.ā
What do you and I really want? How do we want to be treated?
If we want others to give us the benefit of the doubt, then we need to start giving others the benefit of the doubt.
If we want others to know weāre good people, then we need to start being good to people.
And not just a little, or every now and then. But as a way of living, and overflowing.
āFor the measure with which you measure will in return be measured out to you.ā
Itās a way of life thatās only possible when weāre grounded in God, and not ourselves.
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#Good People#Assume the worst#God#Jesus#Catholic#Christian#Church#Assume the best#Benefit of the doubt#Grounded in God#Moments Before Mass
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She knew him to be clever, ambitious, bold,āand she believed even yet, in spite of her own experience, that he might not be bad at heart.
Anthony Trollope, from Can You Forgive Her?
#hung up on you#relationship#breakup#characterization#bad boy#benefit of the doubt#reminds me of#slytherin#quotes#lit#words#excerpts#quote#literature#classics#anthony trollope#can you forgive her?
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Shiv learned from the past few Roy weddings and just dressed for a traumatic experience already ā¤
#succession#spoilers#s4#ep3#it gave everything#girlboss#incredibly rich divorcee#she might have killed her third husband but who knows#benefit of the doubt
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A transformation
From passive to active,
Accepting to questioning:
It doesnāt need to be a battle,
And Iām tired of seeing it as one.
Iām moving my view point,
Transferring my attention.
The entire room changes again,
Even while remaining the same.
These simple transformations;
From believed malicious actions
To simple lacking knowledge;
From things abandoned, ignored,
To forgetfulness, or miscommunication.
There are easier ways to view,
Kinder things to assume.
Even if Iām wrong it doesnāt hurt us,
Only gives the chance for patience.
The transformation is small though,
Slowly changing, growing,
Isnāt that wonderful regardless.
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Hi hi! Unsure if you're open to pokemon fusion OCs - if not, no worries! - but if so, wanna doodle anything at all (I'm not picky ^w^) of my goofy lickitung-fox? :P
(ref pic) if interested. Thanks for the chance!
There ya go
(If I had a cent for every time a request was of a PokĆ©mon fusion between a canine PokĆ©mon and a Lickitung Iād have two. Which isnāt a lot, but itās weird that it happened twice lol. Guessing it was you last time too, anon?)
#art requests#pokĆ©mon fusion#benefit of the doubt#lickitungs aā¦weird choice for fusing PokĆ©mon with but the color palettes nice#usually people always pick out the cool or cute ones to make even cooler/cuter ones#or super goofy joke PokĆ©mon
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This, 100%.
Might be a mistake to admit this, but way back, I had joined a subreddit called r/gendercritical. The points they made (about trans men and women competing in sports against cis men and women, specifically) seemed logical to me at the time as someone who had absolutely zero knowledge of how a trans personās body can change during a medical transition. At first nobody seemed to be against the individual, just against the idea. Later, I realized the individual and the idea are inextricably linked; you canāt be against one without also being against the other.
It wasnāt long before I noticed the vibes in that community were ten kinds of fucked up. I started hearing the same things being said by certain conservative bloviates. I sought out some actual factual material (again in that specific instance about trans people competing against cis people in sports) and learned that I was completely wrong the whole time and was on the verge of TERFdom.
Fast forward 7 years and not only am I a huge advocate for trans rights, Iāve come out as non-binary and bisexual.
Any time I talk to people about trans rights, Iām careful to use language that doesnāt assume the other person is a horrible bigot, because they could just be misinformed and have no way of knowing, just like I was once upon a time.
I think most people do better when they know better. They just donāt know what they donāt know. ĀÆ\_(ć)_/ĀÆ
That all being said, if theyāve proven themselves unable to receive such information, Nazi Punks Fuck Off.
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At the lesbian meetup, met a kind of transphobic woman. Started gearing up to get fighty and then realised... she wasn't an actual terf. She was just older, genuinely didn't know stuff, had heard some terf talking points in passing and had been made kind of anxious by them, but hadn't made it her entire personality. She was open to learning that trans women weren't actually roaming around coercing unwilling cis lesbians into sex, thanked me earnestly for giving her a basic explanation of what "non-binary" meant and truly seemed to be relaxing bit by bit the more she heard. Obviously I'm aware that I can't be sure I've given her a sufficient dose of anti-transphobe vaccine to immunise her permanently against the shit that's out there, but overall it made me hopeful. Most people just aren't dyed-in-the-wool bigots. People can be curious and relieved to hear the fearmongering they've been exposed to is untrue. Telling people this stuff isn't a lost cause.
#trans rights#trans women are women#trans men are men#know better#do better#benefit of the doubt#Youtube
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girl are you sure???????????????
#eye contact#i dont know a lot about those things and its not like i doubt those benefits but like š#girl idk if youre getting them here
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BENEFIT of the DOUBT (love coming & going)
Priceless this BOTD dynamic is. Whether you give it or receive it, it goes to work & makes a difference in anotherās well-being & worthiness. It has the ability to validate, edify, approve, support & encourage regardless of what side of this you are on. I believe in you is being said when given or received. It is like a blessing & only good can come from it BENEFIT of the DOUBT or BOTD Toā¦
#BENEFIT#benefit of the doubt#boo boos#bookmark#botd#bridge burning#circumstances#closure#doubt#giving#human nature#life#love#receiving#second chance#starting fresh#starting over
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anger is a defense mechanism it's not bad
#if youre not angry#its prolly bc u aint payin attention#benefit of the doubt#dont wanna think you dont care#feminism#mad girls
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Malicious Intent
Donāt assume malicious intent. Itās usually not the case. Most people are trying their best to do their best. They arenāt intentionally trying to hurt you. In fact, it is way more likely that they arenāt even thinking about you at all. They are too busy thinking about themselves and their lives to plot against you. Give people the benefit of the doubt and know that those who intentionallyā¦
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Benefit of the Doubt
There are some phrases I love,
More for the flexibility than the words,
And 'benefit of the doubt' is one of them.
Am I accepting someone is right?
Or just accepting that's so much as they know?
Do I just keep my doubts silent,
Seeing where the process will go?
It's always more about trusting,
Not quite the words being said,
Or the plans being made,
But the people doing and saying them
Are doing so to the best of their knowledge.
And if given more information, updated,
Or just more in depth than before,
They'd adjust to suit the situation more.
I give the benefit of the doubt rarely,
Most often to myself and my tired brain,
Believing things will work themselves out,
Or can be solved by an email or two.
Oftentimes that's proven true.
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"to the Church Collectively and not Individually"
~ no respecter of persona is JESUS CHRIST ~
-For Indeed, Tis the Idolatry of the Rote Soul, Prying past Principle's Uncertainty, the egoic Violation -
Take Care in worship of Law or Love, as another idol for selfish pleasure - what is giving when it's easy
Soul liberty is the law, not Mammon; trespass no more
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#Liberty#Reverence#Youtube#Uncertainty Principle#Leave room for doubt#Benefit of the doubt#The Prophet#Golden rule#Kindness#Kingdom
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